Are you looking for a simple way to improve your relationships? Connect better as a couple? This suggestion is great for couples, friends, or even parent-to-child. Give these two simple questions a try…
One time we decided to be brave and give marriage therapy a try. A wise friend had told me that their family intended on enrolling each of her kids in therapy the moment the turned 12.
Because she wanted to normalize therapy in her house. She wanted each of her children to have experience with it, and to know that it was just a normal way to improve your life when you need it. She then talked about how her and her husband attended therapy together before they ever got married, and how much it had blessed their relationship.
It was at that time that we decided we wanted to try some marriage therapy (More me than my husband, It can be a little hard on the “man card” to agree to these things sometimes). But my husband quickly felt comfortable and we came home with some things to practice.
At the time we felt like there wasn’t anything majorly wrong with our marriage, but because of the daily stresses of raising a family with 4 wild, wonderful kids, we had a hard time feeling connected.
I do have to say that if you decide to try marriage therapy, be willing to shop around if you need to. Not all are great, and sometimes you need to find one that fits with both of your personalities. Luckily our first try worked for us. He suggested something for us that is so simple, but so brilliant for making sure you are connecting with your spouse each day.
Improve Your Relationship With These 2 Simple Questions
The Questions are called Best-Worst. Simply put:
What is the WORST thing that happened in your day?
What is the Best thing that happened in your day?
Sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day that we forget to do things that connect us with our relationships. These two simple questions help us to stay caught up with the things that are going on in our loved one’s lives. After practicing this as a couple, we started asking our children these two questions as well.
What I love about these two questions is that they allow the expressing of things that might otherwise get buried or stuffed. While it’s great to ask our kids what they are grateful for, it’s also important to identify those things that are worries or stresses and to talk about them.